The value of leaning into what's hard.....

If a child is not ok to lean into what is hard, and endure the frustration….they lose out and lessen their ability to manage difficulty. Children who avoid, control and drift in challenging situations could benefit from learning to lean into frustration – however their fear of getting angry, tearful or ‘stuck’ may prevent that happening. Thus accepting the emotional react that might occur, and planning for what to do if it occurs, can be much more useful than never letting yourself get into a situation in which you may create big feelings inside. Because the needing to stay away mentality means that almost anything that might create upset becomes a detour, or switches the child towards ‘w

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