August 24, 2019

Wouldn't it be nice if we all had more patience?  Less ‘snap’ and more small-moments-of-waiting before reacting?  

Patience and practice go together – it is something that can be grown with active decisions to acquire a little more grace in our day to day lives.  Patience is not a simple waiting for something ‘bad’ to stop, it is more than that....

August 31, 2018

Are you giving til you fear you might give out…..Have the holidays sapped your strength?

To give your children a firm ‘No’ – assertive and without agression or threat…. You need to be able to say ‘yes’ to yourself ‘yes, I am worthy of working within limits’, ‘yes I am loved even when I keep boundaries’.  If you are clear about what you want to offer yo...

January 18, 2018

Then stop….. Just stop.

Stop and notice how often they raise their voices so that they can pull you in and be saved from sorting out their own squabbles.  Stop and consider the value of conflict resolution and how useful it might be for your child to be able to manage disagreements.  Stop and develop a little trust that, with time support and opportuni...

June 5, 2017

This blog has been written to encourage children (and parents) to  help themselves with common feeling/states…..  (so that ignoring, over-reacting or using ‘calm down’ is not their only strategy)…

 Wouldn't it be nice to know that we could give our children the useful link between having a feeling and knowing what to do - and it is...

January 30, 2017


Desire and difficulties need to be balanced.  But in our times of plenty it could be that our children's  wanting has become ‘weighted’ and a dominant force in the home.

All children have wants, (adults  too).  Humans want what makes them feel good to avoid what makes them feel bad.  I think our grandparent's generation had more...

April 8, 2016




The first thing to consider when bedtime fears occur is whether a child’s fear is related to a specific scary thought, or an accumulation of anxiety that arises throughout the day, and like coca cola bubbles, rises to the surface at night once the day is done.  Night time fears can also be a manifestation of control so the ‘fear’ is secondary to th...

March 6, 2016

This is part of a talk I am giving in a school this week.... and the scary bit with lots of statistics about the over-use of electronics and its influence on brains and behavior I will spare you....but practically.....

  • Ensure parents have screen-free times with children

  • Discuss the need for face-to-face interaction and make sure family-friendl...

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