READINESS... Are you interrupting them whilst they are engaged in other things or are you finding the moments they are available? (eg a teen’s closed door usually means wait ‘til they come back into the family space) RELEVANCE... Are you starting where they are – getting interested in them, what they care about, how they feel…before moving towards your needs and concerns…. Going ‘alongside’ like boarding a vessel at dock is easier than going in with direct challenge pirate st